Lately, I've been struggling with social media...particularly my own. I want to share our world and all of the amazing, fun memories that we make, but I also want to keep it authentic. Too often, I think we can get swept up in being selective of what we show ... highlighting all of the good and never wanting to share the tougher moments. It prompted me to post a photo to my Instagram of a particular tough day for Lo, but also for me as a mother. I almost felt a sort of release when I shared it, and I was so overwhelmed (in a good way) with all of the positive feedback and reinforcement. If you didn't see the photo (above), it was a selfie I took at the doctors office. I was still in my pajamas wearing no make up, my hair tied up in a ponytail, and Lo was asleep on my chest. I didn't post it for sympathy, but rather to show a truer version of what our everyday life looks like outside of those "pretty little squares" you see on Instagram.
The truth is, motherhood is freaking HARD and most of the time, I'm just trying to keep it together. Basically, being a mom is messy, chaotic, and certainly far from glamorous. I typically go about my day with no shower, food on my face and wiping boogers with the bottom of my t-shirt. How's that for glamour? On the one day a week (if I'm lucky) that I actually do my hair, you better believe I'm going to snap a photo - but that's not a true representation of my life day in and day out. This picture, definitely is. So if you're ever feeling (as I do), "how does that mom look like she has it all together?" ... the truth is SHE DOESN'T and chances are she's feeling just as tired, worn out, and messy as you do!
With all of the above being said (motherhood is hard, exhausting, etc...) it's important that we take care of ourselves! Personally, I haven't mastered the whole "balance" thing, BUT I am definitely aware of what a little r+r can do for me. Here are five ways I like to relax ...
1. Chamomile tea + a book. Hearing the word "tea" just immediately relaxes me. I love me some tea with honey and getting lost in a great book
2. Bubble Bath. Pick a night to do this once a week. I choose Fridays because it's the perfect way to unwind after a long week and I add a glass of red for the full effect :)
3. Adult coloring book. My friend gifted me with one along with some colored pencils, and it's such a nice relaxing way to wind down. It's always enjoyable to do something mindless, after a long day of being "on"
4. Schedule a babysitter to come once a week for a few hours, every week. I'm still working on this. It would be really amazing to carve out this time each week to do WHATEVER you want. Nails, hair, shopping, or to even run errands without worrying about a potential melt down situation. Yes!
5. Write in a journal. For me, I find writing (or typing) very therapeutic. Blogging is my release and even though it's definitely hard work, I love being able to express myself.